We Listen to Our Bodies (We Say What's Okay) (Hardcover)
Deja helps young children recognize their emotions by listening to their bodies
Body awareness is a key foundation of consent. We Listen to Our Bodies gives children a vocabulary to understand and communicate their feelings, develop personal boundaries, and build their social and emotional skills.
Through body awareness and recognizing how emotions physically manifest, young children can listen to their bodies for clues about how they’re feeling. Their bodies might feel shaky when worried or like one big sigh when calm and relaxed. By recognizing that physical sensations are trying to communicate something, children can understand when they feel unsafe, calm, or in need of healthy touch.
We Listen to Our Bodies follows Deja and her preschool classmates as they learn to build emotional self-awareness by listening to the physical cues of their bodies. Using the book as a read-aloud, educators and families can model the language Deja’s teachers use to support children as they learn body awareness. The author, who hosts workshops and trainings on teaching consent for families and early childhood educators around the country, offers additional activities in the back of the book.
About the Author
Lydia Bowers is a speaker, consultant, and trainer who happily exists in the Venn diagram overlap between early childhood and sex education.
After spending almost two decades working directly with children as a classroom teacher and a parent, she is passionate about reframing sexuality conversations. Lydia now teaches families and educators how to talk to children about subjects like gender, reproduction, and abuse. When she’s not traveling around the country for conferences and speaking engagements, she lives in Cincinnati with her husband and two children and adds to her growing collection of children’s book character tattoos as often as she can.
Follow her on TikTok @lydiatalksconsent.
Isabel Muñoz’s dream was to paint for a living, and now she’s proud to be the illustrator of several children’s books.
She works from a tiny and colorful studio in the north of Spain.
- 2023 National Parenting Product Award Winner
“Whether you are a parent, an educator, or someone who recognizes how desperately our kids deserve to understand their bodies, their feelings, and their mental well-being, you won't regret adding this beautiful book to your collection!”
— Brynn Burger, The Mama on the Rocks, national speaker, educational resource creator, and parenting coach
“I absolutely love this beautifully inclusive, trauma-aware book that provides parents and caregivers with a great tool to support a child’s connection to their instincts, feelings, and the signals their body sends to help keep them safe. The characters and illustrations are thoughtfully crafted with representation of diverse identities, abilities, and families, making this a wonderful addition to every home. It’s a must-read if you want to raise a powerful, consent-conscious next generation!”
— Melissa Pintor Carnagey, LBSW, founder of Sex Positive Families
“This picture book imparts notable lessons about body awareness.”
— Publishers Weekly
“This storybook introduction to learning about physical and emotional awareness will fill a need in preschool classrooms and libraries.”
— School Library Journal
“Very highly recommended.”
— Children’s Bookwatch